Change is hard… especially when your ego is at stake. Most men I know are not gentle-men. They are just dudes, with a side of immature boy and afraid human thrown in. For that they must pay the price as with any other sort of behavior. What’s really at stake here is, are we gonna move up a notch together, on the human evolutionary scale, or not? Really, arguing over what constitutes decent behavior for any human seems so “sophmoronic.”